In today’s society, we are heading straight into an online universe. We are finding our cars, our jobs, our homes, our bills, and for most of us we are even finding love from online. The industry of online dating has, in fact, now reported annual revenues of about $1.25 billion. There is a pretty steep learning curve, however, because it is such a nascent phenomenon. Whenever you are taking a step to finally reach out to a new partner that seems perfect to you, you will want to make sure that you are going about it in all the right ways. If you are wanting to initiate contact, land a date, and then hope for it to blossom into a lasting love then avoiding as many missteps as possible will give you a better chance at it. There are, however, many different mistakes that you should probably avoid.
1. Never try and post your best photo.
Most individuals do not normally look just like their best photo of themselves. If you do in some sort of magically way, then that is wonderfully for you. However, if you are just like the rest of us in this world though, failure is what you will see in the end if you post your “best photo”. Instead, it is the best thing to do by posting every day normal pictures of yourself, and try to avoid taking pictures where the light captures you in just that perfect way that makes you look like a Hollywood movie star. For we all know that it isn’t realistic.
2. Always take time to read members profiles very carefully.
People who set up their profiles, spend quite a bit of time to make that profile, so do yourself the favor and actually read them. If you see that you are out of an individual’s age range, or if where they live is very far away, then it would be best to keep looking for someone else. If you are a pet lover but you see that someone says they are allergic to cats, it is probably best not to try and make contact with that person, because they obviously can’t share in the same interest of animals as you. However, taking the time to read a person’s profile will take a long time to achieve, but in the long run, you are doing yourself a very large favor in return.
3. Remember to be very careful what you say and who you say it to.
Never assume that people on a certain dating website never converse with each other. If you are telling one individual that you like to party and have fun, but you tell another individual that you are a homebody that like to just hang out, then you are looking to get caught dead in your tracks.
4. Try to make your first message original.
Don’t try to write a single message and then copy and paste it into multiple different messages to different people. Instead of doing this, try to find out an idea for yourself on how you would like to present yourself and take the time to comment on something from each individual’s profile. If you have common interests or hobbies, try to break the ice with that person by fixating on that. Most importantly, never try to make your first message too simple such as just saying, “Hi.” It is a lot easier to come up with a more engaging way to start out a message and give more info then something too simple as that.
5. Don’t take your time in getting to the point right away.
It’s better to not fall into the trap of numerous amounts of emails, conversations, and texts that go on for days on end. After a few messages, take the step and ask them if you could talk over the phone. Then try having some brief conversations before asking for a date. Finding that perfect someone isn’t easy and it takes time, but the sooner you start engaging in activities and dates with one another, the sooner you can find out if you both share a “spark.”
6. Never keep your intentions hidden from them.
If you are looking for just a fun “roll-in-the-hay” say so but in a very tactful way. If you prefer to be friends for a while before developing a romance, then make sure the other individual is aware of this. There is no need to hide your feelings or intentions from them, because in the end they are going to come out eventually.
7. You will NEVER want to stalk members if you don’t receive a message back from them.
If you send a message to a person that you feel you have a connection with, try your best not to obsess over it or over them if you don’t receive an email or a message from them in return. Everyone is different and has a different taste for certain things, if they are not interested, then it is best to continue on to greener pastures.
8. It is best to also try and avoid the urge into getting your hopes up.
Until you have met the individual, if you find someone and you think they are perfect for you by simply just viewing their profile, please wait until you have actually met or spoken to the person before jumping into those kinds of feelings. Be very patient, take things cautiously, and try to take it one step at a time, because building your expectations up too high is a good way to end up with a failure.
9. Don’t be too quick to give out too much personal information too soon.
Be careful on how much you give out to a person about your personal information because there are people out there, such as identity thieves. Many of these individuals, attack dating websites, which means it would be beneficial for you to keep your guard up just in case. It would be prudent to use a separate email address that contains no detailed personal information of yourself, until you have met and determined if this person is a real person that you can start a relationship with.
10. You will also not want to go too overboard on the first day.
If you get to the point where you are going to meet a new person, don’t spend too much money or go overboard by dropping a lot of cash on the first date. Instead, try keeping things at a low cost and low key. There is nothing wrong with going for a walk or even just meeting up at a coffee shop and having a fun and engaging conversation for the first meet or the first date. If you feel the need to spend a lot of money each and every time you go on a date and it ends up becoming a habit, then your budget is really going to take a hit for it.
Online dating is convenient and most of the time it’s free, and it is an easy and wonderful way to meet people especially if you are busy or a business professional. However, you will want to make an attempt to get out into the real world as well. If you choose to do a majority of it online, then always remember to try and not make too many of these mistakes. The less mistakes you create for yourself, then the easier it will be for you to find that “special” or “perfect” someone that you can spend the rest of your life with.