While it’s always great to have a wide circle of friends, there may come a time in your life when you need to weed out negative influences. Those of whom you consider particularly close should be supportive, available and compassionate with regard to your life’s choices – and vice versa. Unfortunately, there is always that bad apple that needs to be tossed out so that you are able to live a free and happy life without negativity or drama.
Not everyone deserves to be on the chopping block regardless of the number of friends you have. Cutting someone completely out of your life can be a taxing experience, but you should know the types of people that have no place in your world.
Negatives are those types of people who can’t seem to be positive even if their lives depended on it. These negative types complain in any given situation and are usually grumpy no matter the situation. If you feel that you’ve always got to cheer them up out of the dumps, then it might be time to let them go. You don’t need to be surrounded by any level of negativity in your life. It may sound cliché, but life really is too short to deal with people who aren’t positive at some point in their lives.
2. Drama Kings & Queens
Drama Kings & Queens create their own whirlwind of insanity that they often try to drag you into. If you have to question whether or not a close friend is a drama queen, the test is simple. Ask yourself if this person creates a huge scene wherever they go and if everything gets blown out of proportion – no matter what it is. If your friend is blowing a gasket because they’ve been cheated on, that’s one thing. It’s a whole new game when they blow a gasket because someone looked at them funny at a restaurant. Learn the signs and cut these people out of your life now – you’ll thank yourself later.
3. Judgmental People
Judgmental People are the worst kind of toxic people that you could have in your life. These people are constantly watching everything you do – to the point where you don’t feel like you can be the real you. If you find yourself trying to change to appease a judge, then you should get out of the situation as quickly as humanly possible.
Who really wants to have a friend who is constantly monitoring your every move?
Takers don’t have anything of value to add to your friendship and will drain you of every kindness that they can squeeze from you. These people are leeches of your good will and deserve nothing but the boot from your life.
If you’re doing all of the work in the friendship and the other person is giving nothing in return, it’s time to put them on the chopping block.
These self-centered types of people will use anything and everything they can in order to get what they want out of a particular situation. Manipulators only go above and beyond when it’s something that will benefit them.
The faster you stop responding to manipulative behavior, the better off you’ll be.
6. Those Who Won’t Forgive You
Those who don’t offer forgiveness may wish to hold onto the negativity created by a specific situation. If you’ve wronged a friend that values your friendship, it’s healthy for them to offer forgiveness in order to move on. Those who can’t seem to forgive you don’t deserve a place in your life and should be cut out immediately.
If you’ve been denied forgiveness by someone who calls themselves your friend, get away from the situation quickly. Life is all about learning from past mistakes and holding onto anger and sadness over something that happened in the past is just plain toxic.
7. Unsupportive People
Good friends offer their support no matter if they agree with your decisions or not. Life is about learning and failure only teaches us great lessons for the future. If your close friend isn’t supportive of your decisions, then it is time to cut them loose from your life.
We all have hopes and dreams and our friends should support our attempts to reach toward the stars. If you’ve got someone in your life that doesn’t feel you can make the cut, chop them out of your life and work toward making your dreams a reality.
Overall, it is good to surround ourselves with friends who are caring, supportive and offer something toward the good of the friendship or relationship. If you’ve encountered any of the seven types of people above, it is time to systematically remove them from your social circle – either as a process or at once. No matter how you slice it, these people bring you down and you deserve better friends than that.